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Through a great deal of painstaking research, which has also involved face to face interviews, I have been able to determine that sugar often plays an unintended role in bullying.

Children of varying ages that have developed an undiagnosed and untreated sugar addiction and/or blood sugar problem after being innocently exposed to sweets and also to pure white refined table sugar by their parents and also by other well-meaning adults including teachers and grade school and high school principles; will quite often exhibit unpleasant behaviors that are consistent with drug addicted individuals that will lie and steal and assault others in order to satisfy their underline addiction and cravings.

A great deal of the bullying that often takes place on the playground and inside the classroom and inside the boys’ and girls’ restroom and locker room often involves children that are obese and that are heavily addicted to white refined sugar and who are seeking away to satisfy their cravings for sugar, which is why many of the bullies will demand the lunch money of their victims in addition to demanding that the frightened child that is being secretly bullied bring them some cookies or some candy in exchange for not being beaten up. Most of the children that are acting out and that are committing violent bullying acts against their fellow students have no idea why they are doing what they’re doing, but instantly feel a whole lot better immediately after they have the opportunity to consume something sweet.

Some of the bullies are suffering from low blood sugar and don’t even realize it like the bullies that were at my grade school and who became a totally different person after eating a handful of cookies or candy. After the sweets were consumed by the bully the combativeness quickly subsided right along with the tension that could be seen in their faces.

Some children have Type II Diabetes and result to inexplicable bullying acts after they become irritable and tired and somewhat frustrated with their immediate surroundings as well as a little paranoid after their blood sugar rises above 200 or after it dips to the 80s or the 90s or to the low 70s which can be dangerous if not lethal.  The calamitous extremely low fat high carbohydrate diets that are essentially animal protein deprived (i.e., that lack bacon and eggs and other slow burning proteins) and that were essentially forced on the unsuspecting American market through clever marketing schemes that were paid for by the various sweet manufacturing companies that wanted to make a profit off of sweets have proven disastrous due to the illnesses and due to the violent acts that can be associated with unstable blood sugar levels that did not exist in the numbers that they are found in today since every meal consisted of protein fat and fiber instead of nothing but carbohydrates.

Some bullies are ruled by unspoken biological changes that no one in the adult world is paying attention to since they simply believe that it is natural for their children to put on “Baby Fat” and that it will go away once the child gets older. These same nutritionally challenged parents seem not to understand that their child’s rapid weight gain as well as the need for prescription glasses are directly related to unstable blood sugar levels and they also don’t understand that white refined sugar is wreaking havoc inside their child’s body that’s becoming increasingly exhausted, which is causing frequent mood swings and violent bullying acts.

Not all bullies have problems with unstable blood sugar levels, however, a great deal of them do, and until the issue of unstable blood sugar levels is properly addressed with respect to children that bully one another on the playground and inside the classroom and inside the restroom and inside the locker room, nothing will get better for those that are being secretly bullied by a child that doesn’t  fully understand his or her actions since they simply don’t understand what’s causing the acute mood swings that have them doing certain things that some of them feel sorry for doing once their blood sugar level starts to level out hours after they have finished bullying another child.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA –

This article was also published by Examiner.com

Bullying After 50

My research into bullying at all levels has allowed me to be fortunate enough to interview a group of straightforward senior citizens that weren’t afraid to speak candidly about the bullying that still takes place at the senior level.

For this particular news  article I interviewed a senior named Maurice C. and he talked about going overseas to fight for his country during the Korean war and also about raising five children only to run into a group of high school bullies that he had long since forgotten about.

Mr. C. as he likes to be called was playing bingo one evening when Jake “The Tormentor” abruptly walked over to his table right before saying hey your Suzy’s little brother aren’t you, and you’re the same pathetic freckle faced scrawny little kid that we caused to wet himself after he couldn’t get inside the house after we chased him home now aren’t you? The familiar voice both startled and angered Mr. C. however he sat silent while he patiently waited for Ralph and Joey and Joey’s younger brother Alexander to appear since they all used to run together back in high school, and once they crowed around him and started taunting him liked they used to, he stood up and told them that he wasn’t the same week little kid that he had once been and he also explained how many confirmed kills he had during the Korean war.

Maurice Sr. also asked Jake who was the ring leader of the senior bullies, and the one that had shoved him from behind before he stood up, how much action he himself had seen during the war? Jake turned pale as a ghost since he hadn’t served his country in any capacity since he was too chicken to join the Armed Forces. The bullies were forced to rethink their actions since they expected Mr. C. to take off running and to leave his wife and son sitting at the bingo table, and when he did the unexpected, the bullies retreated to the corner of the room before returning to apologize.

Bullies often know when they’re outmatched and aren’t afraid to exhibit self-preservation behaviors.

As part of my research into the seldom talked about phenomena of senior bullying, I also interviewed Mary W. who told me that she had to slap the face of a senior bully after the woman kept bumping her shopping cart. Elisabeth was the same girl that used to pull her hair at recess and in the classroom and in the restroom, and she was also the same sassy little girl that used to pour sand down her underpants and also down her blouse while her cowardly friends held her in place, so her merciless bully could denigrate her and so she could occasionally knee her below the belt as a form of entertainment since Mary would immediately collapse after the girls that were holding her arms and legs would release their grasp right after the knee to the private region was delivered out of spite.

Age alone hadn’t changed Elisabeth because she immediately started to call Mary the same kinds of names that she used to call her throughout junior high and throughout high school while following her around the grocery store prior to bumping her shopping cart with such frequency and force that Mary almost fell to the floor while asking Elisabeth to grow up and to leave her alone just moments before becoming fed up enough to strike her in the face since she wouldn’t stop.

For today’s article I also had the opportunity to interview a senior citizen named Pete G. who used to be bullied by an older neighborhood girl named Virginia who was famous for taking his money since she was fifty pounds heavier. The same awful neighborhood bully used to target Pete’s private region whenever he refused to do what she told him to do and whenever he was reluctant to give her his allowance. She would put her hand down Pete’s pants and wouldn’t stop hurting him until he agreed to enter his next door neighbor’s home and to steal the See’s candy that the sixty three year old woman kept inside her refrigerator. And she would also use the same cruel and unconscionable tactic whenever she wanted Pete’s allowance money to buy milk and cookies on the way home since her mother and father had put her on a diet.

Pete suffered greatly until one of the athletic females at his school befriended him and punched his bully out in the girls bathroom after she caught her putting her hand down Pete’s pants and hurting him. Pete had an opportunity to see his bully again once he retired and he saw Virginia at a restaurant and she was nearly four hundred and fifty pounds and still had the very same bullying personality that she had had as a child and actually threatened to beat Pete up right along with his wife of twenty five years if they didn’t stop looking at her.

Virginia was still angry that Becky had beaten her up in front of her friends after she caught her with her hand down Pete’s pants and she blamed him for shaming her in front of her three friends right before she walked out of the restaurant about fifteen minutes after threatening Pete and his wife. Pete and his wife Allison were terrified since they never expected to be threatened by one of Pete’s childhood bullies. The couple even contemplated leaving the restaurant since they were afraid that Virginia might come back, however, their attention was quickly diverted due to the enormous commotion that took place outside the restaurant and that caused everyone inside to stand up and to start looking outside the window. Virginia had been hit by a drunk driver as she was giving Pete and his wife the finger from outside the restaurant.

Pete described being stunned and feeling like he was in a dream right before he sprang into action and completely forgot about the things that were previously said to him while he performed lifesaving CPR on Virginia and if he hadn’t then she would have died on the scene.

Virginia is certainly lucky to be alive even though she’s confined to a wheelchair for the rest of her life since one doesn’t often run into someone that they used to bully and who just happened to be a retired paramedic that was able to forgive the person that used to torment him when he was only seven years old and that used to take great pleasure in targeting his private region until Becky bloodied her nose right before hitting her low, so she could see how it felt to have someone target her groin out of spite.

Bullying still exists amongst seniors which is why there’s definitely a need for a nationwide senior bullying initiative.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA –

This article was also published by Examiner.com

Inner City Bullying

Inner City Bullying is a problem that often goes undiagnosed for several reasons, and one of those reasons has to do with terminology. For example, when an inner city child is purposely picked on in front of his or her classmates, the onlookers who are a collection of their peers as well as a group of immature adults who have yet to accept their societal roles as guardians of the young, normally don’t call it bullying, they call it getting “Punked” by an older kid or by a classmate or by a sibling, which is drastically different from the kind of punked that Americans and others have been watching on television.

The kind of punked that inner city kids have grown accustomed to includes non-staged physical violence and outright harassment as well as intentional property damage and theft that’s not meant to be a prank that everyone is going to laugh at since it’s being recorded. No the kind of punked that involves property theft often includes the child’s lunch money and/or lunch, which means that the child that’s being punked often goes hungry for the day unless another child provides them with something to eat.

The abovementioned punked existed long before the television show was created and it involves ordinary citizens that are not celebrities.

Now in order to effectively fight bullying all across America, those that have taken on the enormous task of eradicating bullying throughout the entire continental United States of America, must first understand the terminology that is being used by all children, and since I understand that inner city kids use the term punked to unknowingly describe the characteristics of being bullied or to describe watching others being bulled, I’m including this journalistic intelligence in my news article, so that parents and educators alike will come to understand that they must use the correct terminology when speaking with children about certain problems that might exist at their school or in their neighborhood.

I also want administrators and parents to understand that they must use the appropriate terminology if they ever expect inner city children to trust them and to reveal what they know about the bullies at their school and in their neighborhood, which quite often includes adults that are still behaving like children even though they’re twenty and thirty and sometime forty years old.

Getting punked by another child as well as by an adult that’s seeking sexual gratification has become an expected and assumed activity in some inner city communities since some of the residents have accepted the role of acting tough as a way of life since their communities are crime ridden due to certain unscrupulous law enforcement agencies purposely turning a blind eye to crime for a number of reasons, which include receiving payment from certain sinister figures that control the criminal underworld.

Law enforcement agencies being on the take is just a fact of life as well as something that I have personally witnessed as a journalist that was covering an unrelated story when a drug dealer rolled up to an unmarked police car and handed a gang enforcement officer a hand full of cash. This sort of thing was rather disturbing since the individual that freely accepted the cash is supposed to be enforcing the law.

With this sort of dynamic in play bullying will never be brought under full control unless we find a way to effectively reach all children, and to teach them that getting punked and that watching others getting punked is not acceptable and that it is the same kind of bullying that they hear certain prominent individuals discussing on television, and that it affects us all, and that it should be reported to a responsible and trustworthy adult, so the appropriate disciplinary action can be taken at once since punking someone is the same as bullying them and crushing their spirit.

This must be made clear to inner city kids because their communities are not always structured like the communities that we often see on television where there are a hand full of African American kids in a predominantly white or Hispanic school.

Bullying is also based on race and gender, and this illuminating message must also be communicated to children, so they can readily understand the signs of being bullied and so the appropriate corrective action can be taken by school administrators or by adult supervisors or by law enforcement depending on the severity of the bullying incident since there are degrees to bullying that don’t necessarily rise to the point of involving the police.

Based on my independent research which includes interviewing certain individuals that haven’t come from Harvard backgrounds or from affluent families, I can honestly say, that a great deal of bullies grow up to be abusers of the elderly and adult sex offenders as well as adolescent sex offenders and that these sex offenders include both sexes, and this is why it is extremely important to diagnose the problem and to take the appropriate corrective action since bullying and child molestation and rape and elder abuse are about controlling another individual that is perceived as being powerless as well as isolated.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA –

Most adults that are willing to talk about being bullied as children, and that remember experiencing the awful humiliation that’s often associated with being bullied, never want to see their bullies again for as long as they live, which is exactly how Tom felt after being repeatedly bullied by a tyrannical high school bully named Alexander.

Well, this all changed one evening because Tom, who had become quite the success story after high school, had the unusual opportunity to confront his less than successful high school bully while the two of them were innocently having dinner at the very same Italian restaurant without knowing beforehand that it was their collective favorite hangout or that the two of them loved and cherished the very same seventy nine year old restaurant owner as well as the savory Italian dishes that are routinely served on a constant and daily basis without fail.

Hearing a familiar and unpleasant grunt coming from a certain section of the restaurant that he never ventures into, Tom was flabbergasted by the sound and he was also overtaken by a flood of emotions after recognizing Alexander’s unforgettable voice since he had read him the riot act on a daily basis throughout his entire four years of high school, which turned out to be the worst four years of his life since he was constantly seeking sanctuary from his much stronger bully that didn’t seem to care that he didn’t want any trouble.

Tom’s experience is like many Americans that have been bullied and tortured by a much older kid despite their overall willingness to want to be friends and despite their genuine desire to want to get along with everyone at the school.

This particular friendly outlook on life didn’t seem to matter to Tom’s bully and as Tom recalls it he was sitting inside the restaurant in a complete daze when he suddenly recognized the fact that he and Alexander were no longer in high school and that he no longer had to be afraid of his former bully, and with this empowering knowledge on his side, Tom began to rehearse all of the horrible things that he was going to say to Alexander prior to walking over to his table, however, after he saw what dreadful condition Alexander was in, he immediately stuck out his hand prior to shaking Alexander’s trembling hand and prior to reintroducing himself since he and Alexander hadn’t seen each other in well over thirty years, and since he had only heard rumors of Alexander’s many successes and failures that had contributed to his unhealthy condition.

Alexander was hardly recognizable when Tom first approached his table, and unlike the scrawny little kid that he had taken great pleasure in picking on for four years straight, he had been in and out of prison ever since he graduated from high school and he had also been unemployed for three years and was in desperate need of surgery after getting into a bar fight approximately six months before running into Tom, who was surprised to see how disheveled he had become over the years since he had an uncombed beard that was nearly down to his chest, and since he was also walking with the assistance of a bamboo stick, and since his hair looked as though it hadn’t been cut in at least eight months or more due to the length and due to the unhealthy look as well as the repugnant stench.

Standing there and seeing the once powerful Alexander reduced to a quivering and repulsive wreck of a man, and no longer angry at his former bully due to what he had become after high school, Tom took the time to catch up with the man that he had once regarded as an enemy due to being constantly attacked for no reason other than the color of his skin.

You see Tom is African American and despite their difference in race he immediately offered to pay for his former bully’s dinner since he could tell that Alexander could hardly afford to cover the bill and that he was eating lightly because he couldn’t afford any of the more expensive dishes that would sustain him throughout the night and that would also replenish the protein and the vitamins that he had been losing due to a lack of food and supplements.

Alexander wasn’t a tenth of the man that he had once been, and feeling a certain degree of remorse for the things that he had done to Tom out of hatred, and also responding to the kind gesture that was extended to him by Tom, which was based entirely on Tom’s unbiased Christian love for all men, Alexander’s face quickly turned from a somewhat proud pale white to an attention grabbing flush of embarrassment, which got everyone’s attention since they were aware of his racist views. The kind gesture didn’t end with Tom offering to pay for his meal because he also invited Alexander to join him at his table that was filled with the finest dishes and he also offered him a job despite his past brushes with the law.

The new full time job that came with a healthcare package allowed Alexander to obtain the kind of surgery that he required due to the three on one bar fight that he had gotten into and that had left him partially crippled and with no hope of ever getting any better without undergoing the kind of necessary surgery that was needed to repair the damage that was caused by the three drunken men that he had gotten into a fight with over a spilt drink and over a few peanuts that were scattered on the counter of the dive bar that he had wandered into.

The kindness of Tom and the much needed surgery not only allowed Alexander to pick himself up out of the dirt; for it also allowed him to ditch the humiliating bamboo stick that he had found inside a trash dumpster and that he had been using to support himself with since he couldn’t afford to purchase a real cane and since he didn’t have the kind of medical insurance that would have provided him with a cane once he was treated by a doctor.

The kindness and the forgiveness of the freshmen that was bullied from the very start of his high school experience also allowed Alexander to regain some of the dignity that had been lost as a result of being injured and as a result of being out of work for an extended period of time since no one would hire him due to his checkered past and due to his obvious disability and due to his unstable housing history since he had been living in a homeless shelter prior to moving into a friend’s garage.

Well, as you can certainly tell from the interview that was conducted on 03/25/2013 with both men who spoke candidly, facing one’s bully as an adult is not always about tearing him or her down since some occasions call for the deepest of understandings and for an unbiased heart that is filled with compassion as well as with forgiveness for past mistakes.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA –

This article was also published by Examiner.com

Bullying In The Workplace

One of the most overlooked aspects of the bullying paradigm is workplace bullying, which often leads to workplace violence.

More often than not, workplace violence can be traced back to the kind of bullying that often takes place inside the workplace, which is an environment that’s supposed to be free from harassment and discrimination. However, many of the current and former employees that I’ve interviewed, and who are both male and female, speak of either being bullied at work or of witnessing others being bullied at work.

The bullies are collectively described as being members of management as well as girls that have formed certain office cliques inside the workplace after getting to know one another on a personal level. The bullying that takes place inside the workplace consists of claiming certain tables in the lunch room for members of the office clique and chasing off others that don’t belong to the tight-knit group that has declared the workplace as their domain. Property theft is also associated with workplace bullying since it’s a tool that is often used to get others to join the organization since the victim or victims obviously need protection from the members of the office clique that severely outnumber them.

One incident in particular had to do with a stolen lunch. The victim entered the lunch room only to find her lunch being eaten by one of the bullies and when she approached the table to ask why her lunch had been stolen by one of the members of the office clique, she was viciously assaulted by three of the members that had previously carved out their territory inside the lunch room. The victim was also threatened with further violence if she said anything to supervision, which caused her to eventually quit the job since she was terrified of being seriously injured due to the sheer number of girls that were members of the office clique.

Another frightening workplace bullying incident that took place at an entirely different location had to do with a group of younger females harassing an older worker who happened to be taking prescription medication. After being unfairly pushed and shoved inside the women’s restroom due to her age, the elderly victim made the mistake of leaving her unguarded purse on one of the tables inside the lunch room while she went to warm up her food in one of the company provided microwaves.

And seeing that the purse was left unguarded, the bullies who knew that the older worker needed to take her diabetes medication as well as her high blood pressure pills took the medication out of her purse prior to pouring the contents into the toilet bowl and just before flushing all of the pills down the drain, and they also threw the purse into the trash can which was later found by a maintenance worker that was performing the routine duties of his job when he discovered the purse inside the trash can.

The elderly worker missed several days of work since she couldn’t perform the duties of her job without her much needed medication.

This sort of thing apparently takes place more often than anyone is willing to admit since most people want to think of bullying as just being a problem that exists among children.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA —

This article was also published by Examiner.com

“I became a bully out of a deep desire to obtain that which my parents were unwilling to purchase for me,” says Kim who doesn’t want to use her last name.

“And had my parents been a little more understanding then a lot of kids wouldn’t have gotten bullied since all I really wanted was to fit in with the rest of the cool kids at my school,” Kim openly stated during our forty five minute interview that was conducted on 12/06/2012 with the understanding that her last name wouldn’t be used.

Kim also confided in me that she became a bully as far back as elementary school, and she also stated that it started with her bullying another little girl that eventually brought a friend in an effort to take some of the heat off of her since Kim demanded loyalty and respect as well as secrecy. And with two girls hopelessly under her control Kim began to rack up more and more followers and her new recruits would eventually help her topple the toughest girl at the school since cliques are essentially a numbers game.

Kim’s schoolyard rival quickly found herself seriously outnumbered since her crew only consisted of a total of four girls, and with the numbers advantage being in her rival’s favor, the toughest girl at the school was accosted inside the girls restroom, and with her crew easily scared off by the sheer numbers advantage, Kim ordered her seven faithful soldiers to hold the girl down while she struck her genitals with her closed fists, which caused the victim to acquiesce to her demands and to accept the role as Kim’s second in command.

Kim continued to be a bully until she bullied a girl that had two older brothers that were willing to go to bat for their sister, which is what caused Kim to eventually change her ways since the girl’s older brothers were in high school when they paid her an unexpected visit at her junior high school. No blows were ever exchanged between the kids. A convincing threat of retaliation was all that was needed to set Kim on the right course; and her role quickly shifted from out of control bully to proponent for peace; and today she regularly speaks to boys and girls about the dangers of bullying.

More often than not, all it takes is a stern talking to and this is where authority figures come in. Titles tend to matter to children whether those titles be accompanied by badges or not. The boys that talked to Kim on their sister’s behalf were athletes and this is why Kim felt compelled to listen to what they had to say since everyone can’t very well become an athlete and since she revered what they collectively represented.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA —

This article was also published by Examiner.com

Although most never think of the library as being a safe haven for those that are seeking sanctuary from the world of bullying; the library has proven to be just that.

While researching some of the antidotes that children have developed on their own in an effort to escape the bullies that often rule their pintsized worlds, I discovered that children often choose the library as a way to escape the bullies that have tormented them throughout their many hours of school. The library is often the first choice on the list since it provides children with a way to educate themselves in addition to around the clock adult supervision which means that no bullies are allowed.

One child described the library as being the ultimate clubhouse that’s equipped with a ladder that extends so high up into the air that it makes it extremely difficult for the bully to reach the children that are playing inside.

The Cerritos Library is one such place since it affords children with the opportunity to interact with one another while inside the confines of their very own library, which is separately located inside the main library. The children that frequent the Cerritos Library can either join their parents or their older brothers and sisters in the main library or they can spend all of their time inside the children’s library, which routinely provides performances that are designed for their age group.

The Cerritos Library also has a Friends of the Cerritos Library onsite bookstore which allows children and others to purchase books and gifts at a discount, and as another child put it, ‘The library is no place for bullies since they like to do things in secret.’

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA —

This article was also published by Examiner.com

Bullying Discussions and Solutions

In light of the incredible surge in bullying, and the undeniable devastating effects of it, the entertainment community that comprises Hollywood as well as the sports entertainment field has come out in full force while lending their far reaching voices in hopes that their voices of reason will help to put an end to bullying once and for all.

The WWE is one such organization that is dedicated to ending bullying and it routinely provides top level Wrestling Super Stars as well as talented WWE Divas that meet with children and that talk to them about bullying and the message seems to be sinking in since the children have started to listen, and since they are reporting those that are bullying their classmates and their friends and their family members, and since many of the children have decided to befriend rather than to bully.

Based on my ongoing discussions with children the consensus is that more after school educational programs are needed since they give children a real sense of belonging as well as something to look forward to doing after school. The after school educational programs also teach the children team work while building self-esteem and they provide children with a safe environment where they can meet up with their friends and where they can also discuss the events of the day and where they can share homework tips with one another.

New and interesting things are also learned during the after school sessions since they aren’t a part of the standard curriculum which makes it especially enjoyable for the children who long to learn something new at the end of the day.

After school sports programs are also important to the youth of today since they help children achieve physical fitness and since there’s always an adult around that can supervise the children and that can intervene in the event that bullying starts to occur. This is something that the children volunteered on their own and perhaps we should listen to them since they often know best.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA –