Tag Archive: Cliques


Recently the entire world was seemingly shaken to their very core when news broke that a third grader at John Adams Elementary School had sexually assaulted someone of the same gender on numerous occasions.

Sadly this sort of thing happens more often than anyone is willing to admit, and in some cases, more often than most people know, and I say this because this kind of grade school sexual assault was going on when I was in elementary school even though certain Southern California news agencies were reluctant to report on it.

When I was in elementary school there was a group of boys and girls at the school that knew who they were early on, and these same boys and girls collectively ran the schoolyard together, and they would target certain kids during our official classroom break, and all of the sexual assaults took place either in the bathroom or in the back of the class or around the building, and out of the view of the playground attendants and teachers and maintenance workers that were present at recess.

The girls at my school would surround the new girl or girls and they would make them perform certain sex acts on them, which included making the new arrivals kneel down in front of the girls that were in charge of the schoolyard prior to the aggressors exposing their bare genitals to the confused and outnumbered girl or girls and prior to the bullies demanding that the outnumbered girl or girls perform cunnilingus on them if they didn’t want to be beaten up and stripped naked in front of the boys that were watching the whole ordeal while acting as look outs for the girls. The threat that was made by the bullies also included cutting off all of the girls hair if she didn’t do what they told her to do, which amounted to cunnilingus in elementary school language since the girls didn’t have a big enough vocabulary to use the term cunnilingus.

Everyone on the playground and in the classroom knew that this sort of thing was going on, and some of the teachers also knew about the sexual assaults that were taking place, however, no one wanted to say anything for fear of being sued by an angry parent since most parents won’t admit that their child is gay and since a child that’s attending elementary school isn’t supposed to know that he or she is gay.

Well, this is simply not true because the boys that ran with the girls that were carrying out these grade school sexual assaults were doing the very same thing and one day they surrounded me while I was inside the bathroom along with two other boys that were my classmates, and they demanded that we kneel down and that we perform a sex act on them while the girls that they had snuck into the boy’s bathroom watched, however, I refused right away, but the other two boys chickened out and gave in since we were outnumbered and since they were afraid of being beaten up by the bullies that were demanding the sex act.

The boys that surrounded us while the snickering girls were watching and while they were egging the boys on screamed ‘Slob on my knob’ which meant that the bullies wanted fellatio from their frightened victims even though they were far too young to experience it.

I fought my way out of the restroom because I was not going to slob on anyone’s knob, and after I took a stand by punching the kid that was standing directly in front of me square in the nose, which caused him to hit the floor back first, the group of boys and girls that were sexually assaulting the other kids tried to recruit me later on that day since they knew that I would stand up for myself, and that I was not going to do what they told me to do, and that I was willing to fight back even though I was outnumbered, and that I didn’t have any reservations about hurting one of them if I were backed into a corner.

I turned the bullies down of course since my actions were purely defensive and since I was not going to go around forcing kids to perform unwanted sex acts just because I was running with a clique that thought that they were tough simply because they had greater numbers and simply because they had an exotic outlook on life that was far different from the rest of the kids that didn’t have a heterosexual clique to call their own.

After turning the boys and girls down for the third time since they kept asking me to join their clique since they were afraid to allow me to be independent since they couldn’t predict what I was going to do, and since they knew that I could handle myself in a fight, I eventually intervened in a classroom scuffle while the girls were trying to force another girl to perform cunnilingus on them in the back of the room after the teacher stepped out of the classroom to use the restroom, and from that day forward a number of the kids in my class started to look to me for protection since they knew that the girls and boys that were from the other clique wouldn’t bother them as long as they were hanging out with me.

What happened with the third grader at John Adams Elementary School in Riverside California is unfortunately not an isolated incident since I witnessed the same kind of grade school sexual assaults when I was in grade school.

Bullies are all the same despite their sexual orientation.

 

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA –

This article was also published by Examiner.com

 

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Bullying In The Workplace

One of the most overlooked aspects of the bullying paradigm is workplace bullying, which often leads to workplace violence.

More often than not, workplace violence can be traced back to the kind of bullying that often takes place inside the workplace, which is an environment that’s supposed to be free from harassment and discrimination. However, many of the current and former employees that I’ve interviewed, and who are both male and female, speak of either being bullied at work or of witnessing others being bullied at work.

The bullies are collectively described as being members of management as well as girls that have formed certain office cliques inside the workplace after getting to know one another on a personal level. The bullying that takes place inside the workplace consists of claiming certain tables in the lunch room for members of the office clique and chasing off others that don’t belong to the tight-knit group that has declared the workplace as their domain. Property theft is also associated with workplace bullying since it’s a tool that is often used to get others to join the organization since the victim or victims obviously need protection from the members of the office clique that severely outnumber them.

One incident in particular had to do with a stolen lunch. The victim entered the lunch room only to find her lunch being eaten by one of the bullies and when she approached the table to ask why her lunch had been stolen by one of the members of the office clique, she was viciously assaulted by three of the members that had previously carved out their territory inside the lunch room. The victim was also threatened with further violence if she said anything to supervision, which caused her to eventually quit the job since she was terrified of being seriously injured due to the sheer number of girls that were members of the office clique.

Another frightening workplace bullying incident that took place at an entirely different location had to do with a group of younger females harassing an older worker who happened to be taking prescription medication. After being unfairly pushed and shoved inside the women’s restroom due to her age, the elderly victim made the mistake of leaving her unguarded purse on one of the tables inside the lunch room while she went to warm up her food in one of the company provided microwaves.

And seeing that the purse was left unguarded, the bullies who knew that the older worker needed to take her diabetes medication as well as her high blood pressure pills took the medication out of her purse prior to pouring the contents into the toilet bowl and just before flushing all of the pills down the drain, and they also threw the purse into the trash can which was later found by a maintenance worker that was performing the routine duties of his job when he discovered the purse inside the trash can.

The elderly worker missed several days of work since she couldn’t perform the duties of her job without her much needed medication.

This sort of thing apparently takes place more often than anyone is willing to admit since most people want to think of bullying as just being a problem that exists among children.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA —

This article was also published by Examiner.com

“I became a bully out of a deep desire to obtain that which my parents were unwilling to purchase for me,” says Kim who doesn’t want to use her last name.

“And had my parents been a little more understanding then a lot of kids wouldn’t have gotten bullied since all I really wanted was to fit in with the rest of the cool kids at my school,” Kim openly stated during our forty five minute interview that was conducted on 12/06/2012 with the understanding that her last name wouldn’t be used.

Kim also confided in me that she became a bully as far back as elementary school, and she also stated that it started with her bullying another little girl that eventually brought a friend in an effort to take some of the heat off of her since Kim demanded loyalty and respect as well as secrecy. And with two girls hopelessly under her control Kim began to rack up more and more followers and her new recruits would eventually help her topple the toughest girl at the school since cliques are essentially a numbers game.

Kim’s schoolyard rival quickly found herself seriously outnumbered since her crew only consisted of a total of four girls, and with the numbers advantage being in her rival’s favor, the toughest girl at the school was accosted inside the girls restroom, and with her crew easily scared off by the sheer numbers advantage, Kim ordered her seven faithful soldiers to hold the girl down while she struck her genitals with her closed fists, which caused the victim to acquiesce to her demands and to accept the role as Kim’s second in command.

Kim continued to be a bully until she bullied a girl that had two older brothers that were willing to go to bat for their sister, which is what caused Kim to eventually change her ways since the girl’s older brothers were in high school when they paid her an unexpected visit at her junior high school. No blows were ever exchanged between the kids. A convincing threat of retaliation was all that was needed to set Kim on the right course; and her role quickly shifted from out of control bully to proponent for peace; and today she regularly speaks to boys and girls about the dangers of bullying.

More often than not, all it takes is a stern talking to and this is where authority figures come in. Titles tend to matter to children whether those titles be accompanied by badges or not. The boys that talked to Kim on their sister’s behalf were athletes and this is why Kim felt compelled to listen to what they had to say since everyone can’t very well become an athlete and since she revered what they collectively represented.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA —

This article was also published by Examiner.com