Tag Archive: Bullying


“I became a bully out of a deep desire to obtain that which my parents were unwilling to purchase for me,” says Kim who doesn’t want to use her last name.

“And had my parents been a little more understanding then a lot of kids wouldn’t have gotten bullied since all I really wanted was to fit in with the rest of the cool kids at my school,” Kim openly stated during our forty five minute interview that was conducted on 12/06/2012 with the understanding that her last name wouldn’t be used.

Kim also confided in me that she became a bully as far back as elementary school, and she also stated that it started with her bullying another little girl that eventually brought a friend in an effort to take some of the heat off of her since Kim demanded loyalty and respect as well as secrecy. And with two girls hopelessly under her control Kim began to rack up more and more followers and her new recruits would eventually help her topple the toughest girl at the school since cliques are essentially a numbers game.

Kim’s schoolyard rival quickly found herself seriously outnumbered since her crew only consisted of a total of four girls, and with the numbers advantage being in her rival’s favor, the toughest girl at the school was accosted inside the girls restroom, and with her crew easily scared off by the sheer numbers advantage, Kim ordered her seven faithful soldiers to hold the girl down while she struck her genitals with her closed fists, which caused the victim to acquiesce to her demands and to accept the role as Kim’s second in command.

Kim continued to be a bully until she bullied a girl that had two older brothers that were willing to go to bat for their sister, which is what caused Kim to eventually change her ways since the girl’s older brothers were in high school when they paid her an unexpected visit at her junior high school. No blows were ever exchanged between the kids. A convincing threat of retaliation was all that was needed to set Kim on the right course; and her role quickly shifted from out of control bully to proponent for peace; and today she regularly speaks to boys and girls about the dangers of bullying.

More often than not, all it takes is a stern talking to and this is where authority figures come in. Titles tend to matter to children whether those titles be accompanied by badges or not. The boys that talked to Kim on their sister’s behalf were athletes and this is why Kim felt compelled to listen to what they had to say since everyone can’t very well become an athlete and since she revered what they collectively represented.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA —

This article was also published by Examiner.com

Although most never think of the library as being a safe haven for those that are seeking sanctuary from the world of bullying; the library has proven to be just that.

While researching some of the antidotes that children have developed on their own in an effort to escape the bullies that often rule their pintsized worlds, I discovered that children often choose the library as a way to escape the bullies that have tormented them throughout their many hours of school. The library is often the first choice on the list since it provides children with a way to educate themselves in addition to around the clock adult supervision which means that no bullies are allowed.

One child described the library as being the ultimate clubhouse that’s equipped with a ladder that extends so high up into the air that it makes it extremely difficult for the bully to reach the children that are playing inside.

The Cerritos Library is one such place since it affords children with the opportunity to interact with one another while inside the confines of their very own library, which is separately located inside the main library. The children that frequent the Cerritos Library can either join their parents or their older brothers and sisters in the main library or they can spend all of their time inside the children’s library, which routinely provides performances that are designed for their age group.

The Cerritos Library also has a Friends of the Cerritos Library onsite bookstore which allows children and others to purchase books and gifts at a discount, and as another child put it, ‘The library is no place for bullies since they like to do things in secret.’

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA —

This article was also published by Examiner.com

Bullying Discussions and Solutions

In light of the incredible surge in bullying, and the undeniable devastating effects of it, the entertainment community that comprises Hollywood as well as the sports entertainment field has come out in full force while lending their far reaching voices in hopes that their voices of reason will help to put an end to bullying once and for all.

The WWE is one such organization that is dedicated to ending bullying and it routinely provides top level Wrestling Super Stars as well as talented WWE Divas that meet with children and that talk to them about bullying and the message seems to be sinking in since the children have started to listen, and since they are reporting those that are bullying their classmates and their friends and their family members, and since many of the children have decided to befriend rather than to bully.

Based on my ongoing discussions with children the consensus is that more after school educational programs are needed since they give children a real sense of belonging as well as something to look forward to doing after school. The after school educational programs also teach the children team work while building self-esteem and they provide children with a safe environment where they can meet up with their friends and where they can also discuss the events of the day and where they can share homework tips with one another.

New and interesting things are also learned during the after school sessions since they aren’t a part of the standard curriculum which makes it especially enjoyable for the children who long to learn something new at the end of the day.

After school sports programs are also important to the youth of today since they help children achieve physical fitness and since there’s always an adult around that can supervise the children and that can intervene in the event that bullying starts to occur. This is something that the children volunteered on their own and perhaps we should listen to them since they often know best.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA –