“I became a bully out of a deep desire to obtain that which my parents were unwilling to purchase for me,” says Kim who doesn’t want to use her last name.

“And had my parents been a little more understanding then a lot of kids wouldn’t have gotten bullied since all I really wanted was to fit in with the rest of the cool kids at my school,” Kim openly stated during our forty five minute interview that was conducted on 12/06/2012 with the understanding that her last name wouldn’t be used.

Kim also confided in me that she became a bully as far back as elementary school, and she also stated that it started with her bullying another little girl that eventually brought a friend in an effort to take some of the heat off of her since Kim demanded loyalty and respect as well as secrecy. And with two girls hopelessly under her control Kim began to rack up more and more followers and her new recruits would eventually help her topple the toughest girl at the school since cliques are essentially a numbers game.

Kim’s schoolyard rival quickly found herself seriously outnumbered since her crew only consisted of a total of four girls, and with the numbers advantage being in her rival’s favor, the toughest girl at the school was accosted inside the girls restroom, and with her crew easily scared off by the sheer numbers advantage, Kim ordered her seven faithful soldiers to hold the girl down while she struck her genitals with her closed fists, which caused the victim to acquiesce to her demands and to accept the role as Kim’s second in command.

Kim continued to be a bully until she bullied a girl that had two older brothers that were willing to go to bat for their sister, which is what caused Kim to eventually change her ways since the girl’s older brothers were in high school when they paid her an unexpected visit at her junior high school. No blows were ever exchanged between the kids. A convincing threat of retaliation was all that was needed to set Kim on the right course; and her role quickly shifted from out of control bully to proponent for peace; and today she regularly speaks to boys and girls about the dangers of bullying.

More often than not, all it takes is a stern talking to and this is where authority figures come in. Titles tend to matter to children whether those titles be accompanied by badges or not. The boys that talked to Kim on their sister’s behalf were athletes and this is why Kim felt compelled to listen to what they had to say since everyone can’t very well become an athlete and since she revered what they collectively represented.

Nathaniel Armstrong, Jr.

Cerritos, CA —

This article was also published by Examiner.com

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